Perhaps you've already got there and are living the dream, having the life and being the “YOU” you always wanted to be. We wish you all the best.
Is achievement and happiness still not enough for you? What is your next mountain to climb?
Not there yet?
What do you mean you had big plans but "Life" got in the way? What's that you say? You're not sure what you want. This only means you will definitely not know when you have gotten there.
If you have made some progress but are permanently stuck and not sure if you are living your dream or how you even got there- it's OK, you've come to the right place.
As children we have mighty big dreams for ourselves.
We confidently say - "Oh I'm going to be an astronaut, president or invent something grand ..." and shrug as though it were a given.
Job done. So be it.
Then life delivers knock-downs, disappointments, rejections, heart ache and woe.
Our little umbrellas of hope get battered and torn as the storms of life take their toll and it seems easier to retreat than forge on.
We've all been there. Yes, all of us; even the really successful, happy and contented folk.
And here's the bottom line -
It's how you choose to deal with all of those set-backs and hardships that is the key to becoming all you ever wanted to be.
Our perception of the world can create "can-do" or "can't ever do" attitudes. It can make us feel like victors as well as victims, millionaires or paupers. Our beliefs and perceptions can trip us up, keep us down, enable us to climb the highest mountain or stay stuck in the corner sulking and sucking our thumbs.
One of the first casualties of negative perceptions is a serious downturn in confidence. Fear grabs us and keeps us stuck in excuses, pain and indecision. We start to question ourselves as our internal critic acts like a weight on our dreams and actions.
In coaching clients who say their lack of confidence is holding them back it's important from the start to establish what being confident means.
It doesn't mean being a bragging, loud bore that people would clear a bar in 30 seconds. Why not aim for quietly assertive?
Here are a few coaching questions to help you take a step nearer who you want to be:
It's the small twists and tweaks in our thinking that can have the most momentous and long lasting results.
What could you do today to take one step closer to being who you always wished you could be?
If you are still struggling and would like to seriously improve your confidence,
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Kathleen Tucka is an accomplished award winning Life, Career, Business Coach and Personal Advocate.