How Lucky Do You Feel?
Are you feeling lucky? Perhaps you're having a "don't ask" sort of day? Why is it, you wonder, that some people are given great big buckets from which to dip into the river of wealth and happiness while you were handed a teaspoon with a hole in it? If there is a silver lining to every cloud, why are you the only one who just sees it as the start of a hurricane brewing?
If your toast always crashes to the floor butter-side down and it's not that the glass is half empty but you got a little “black cloud” over your head, then it may be high time for you to re-tune your attitude.
As coaches we often say that what we focus on expands. Ladies who have a battle with the morning mirror while dressing will know all too well what we’re talking about. Bottoms appear larger and tummies jiggle. All our best features are obliterated by our absorption of what we perceive as imperfect. Before you know it our bottoms and bellies have eclipsed out the sun.
When we focus and concentrate on what we see as the negative in ourselves, our lives or our current situation, it becomes magnified. It just gets bigger, all consuming and negatively dominates our perspective. We feel low and depressed, victimized and frustrated with our situation and our lives. "Why me?" becomes our moaning mantra and we shrug our cynical shrug, narrow our eyes at all those for whom life is "easy" and shuffle through our days in our gloom and doom mentality. We continue to focus on each and every negative occurrence in our lives as to reinforce and convince ourselves that nothing good will every happen.
It has to be said that there is something annoying about Pollyanna people who always look on the bright side. They can get on my nerves too! However, if your natural default position is one of pessimism and bad luck, love and life on easy street is something that happens to other people, you are living a diminished life built on fear.
Everyone gets the blues.
Here are some self-coaching questions to get you from Life is no fun to Life's Good.
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Kathleen Tucka is an accomplished award winning Life, Career, Business Coach and Personal Advocate.