If you study teenagers, you would discover a pretty adaptable species that has been designed to annoy and bother us since their creation.      
Operating in that no-man’s land between childhood and adulthood they’ve yet to set their anchor in life and they float blissfully on the sea of irresponsibility.

No more waiting, no more “maybes”, no more “yes, no” hesitations, nothing but beautiful, clear-minded, rocket-fuel determination and glee.
No more procrastinating, no more negatively comparing yourself to others and no more waiting for it to be "perfect."

Your life has been a roller coaster of experiences from winning on a scratch off ticket to enjoying a fun family dinner to the excitement of starting a new job  to climbing out of  the depths of despair from mourning, grief and illness and everything in between.

When the realization comes that today may bring some dread at the things that you need to face, it sometimes seems an impossibility. Then after some deep reflection, you are ready to cope. The dread can sometimes weigh heavy on your mind and body making it hard to get moving and face the day ahead

On a day-to-day basis, before you get out of bed -

Think of at least three things ahead that you want to happen or can create and look forward to:

...Maybe a latte in your favorite park, listening to an inspiring podcast, accomplishing a task that you have been putting off or a fabulous evening meal with great friends.

Here are a few other methods to turn your gloom into happiness:

• Identify the negative emotions
• Write them down
• Draw a picture of them

The fact that you have identified your fear or anxiety can sometimes be relief enough.

Want to be happier? ...then eat your greens.

Research involving fruit and veggies revealed that people who ate the most fruit and veggies were less likely to exhibit nervousness, anxiety, depression and other mental problems.
 They were also more likely to be happy and satisfied with their lives.

 Seconds anyone?

While we look to liberate and streamline our lives, we often end up getting in our own way.
We all want to upgrade our lives continuously with the latest and greatest gadgets, but where do we put them?

Do you have a huge home with a large basement and garage to store all your treasured "finds?"
For most of us our homes are full of half-finished projects and good intentions, such as that rarely-used  treadmill that you now use as a extended closet and the latest and greatest  self-help books that sit half-read.

And then there are the countless things infused with memories and guilt, that we hang on to for emotional reasons.
We can inherit clutter, such as an assortment of  “treasured family objects” that are passed on through the generations, turning us into some kind of emotional warehouse where we become the guardians of family memories, which end up owning us.

Having too much stuff to deal with can make it difficult to focus on anything. It can make you feel tired when you walk into a room and cause anxiety when we lose or can’t locate things easily.

It induces feelings of guilt about overspending on things we don’t need or use, and a general feeling of being overwhelmed.

Sometimes we feel insecure and think we need “treats” is one explanation, another is the sense that we can’t throw something away in case it might be needed– even if it has sat there, unused forever and forever.

When I quit waiting for life to deliver and focused on my plan, the wonderful things I dreamed of eventually came to me.
 

• What would have to change in your life for you to become your own “best friend?”
• What obstacle(s) would you have to remove to make this happen?
• How would your life look to you if you were your own “best friend?”
• Why is it important to you to do this now?
• What actions are you ready to take?

 

 At some point everyone will need to make at least one decision and then the next decision based on the outcome of the first decision. But if you are stuck you don’t make any decisions, this is where the challenge lies.

Are you victim or victor?  Star or understudy?

Do you have abundance or always feel like you are coming up short?

Sometimes it can feel as though we are born with a predetermined set of skills or gifts, but it  is always your option to decide to develop what you were given and take your skills to the next level.

Some of my clients say they weren't born confident as though they were genetically disadvantaged and unable to learn new skills or take a new direction and breakthrough their comfort zone.

I've not seen a newborn stand up, walk out of their mother’s womb and start directing the nurses on their next order of business.

I don’t know of any blood test that indicates what level of confidence that you were born with.

I have seen some amazing, beautiful and talented children, but those skills were developed in time with help from their loving and nurturing parents or support system.  Nurturing and coaching comes in many forms from many places, but first and foremost starts from within by how we perceive our situation.

We can make excuses and feel we've somehow have not been given the same opportunities as other people and keep wondering why.

But In the end, everything comes down to our choices and what we believe and perceive.

We get caught up in our everyday lives, forget to count our blessings, see the good in our lives and put things in perspective.

So many of us see nothing but catastrophes, defining our lives by our dramas and difficulties instead of rewiring our thought processes to see the good and the gifts.

We are all complicated and sensitive creatures and sometimes life's knocks and losses take more time to heal than we anticipated.

If you are still struggling and would like more information on how we can work together to help you build your confidence, schedule a 30- minute Sunny Life Coach Trial session TODAY!