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Do you know the person in your mirror?  On the surface it seems an odd idea that you could actually be anything other than who you really are. But from the time we can talk, we’re being programmed to “FIT IN”. We find ourselves conforming in order to please the people we love, and who love us. But sometimes that means that you have to suppress who you know is the real person inside and the things that you know are possible. And yet, your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll ever have. Without a healthy relationship with yourself, it’s practically impossible to have healthy relationships with anyone else. If you’re ready to get reacquainted with someone you haven’t seen in a while – YOURSELF – start with these 4 ideas to help you rediscover the real you. Quiet the noise in your head  You know those voices well, the ones that are constantly nagging you to pick up the dry cleaning, talk to the school teacher, juggle the bills, schedule the vet, keep the boss happy. With all that noise going on, it will be impossible for you to hear anything above the din. This MUST be the first step. How do you do that? By setting up systems, simplifying, and establishing enough extras in your life to allow you to operate from a position of abundance, instead of lack.  Practice thinking about yourself in healthy ways In order to do that, you must first believe that you are valuable, and your Real Self has something to offer the world. Since you talk to yourself more than everyone else in your life combined --that’s a lot of talk!—it’s up to YOU to establish healthy communication in your thinking. Consciously listen to how you talk to yourself; write down the unhealthy things you say; challenge them; and replace them with facts. Self-Talk: “You never do anything right.” Challenge: “Of course I do things right. I did (example) right. I did (example) right. This time, I just made a mistake. I’ll learn from it and have better success next time.”  Listen To Your Heart Sounds easy enough, but by the time we’re adults, most of us have stopped listening to our hearts and go only with our heads. Those two must reconnect in order to find your real self. It’s easy to become accustomed to thinking about your feelings instead of really feeling them. Instead of asking yourself what you think about something, ask why it’s important.  Be careful not to get hung-up on a specific goal What you’re really after is a feeling -- respect, love, appreciation - as opposed to the company car, or a great guy/girl. Keep an open mind to the feelings, and be willing to adjust the methods you use to achieve them. Determine not just your goals, but how it satisfies who you really are. The mask will come off and your real self will come shining through. A person you can know and love - you! - is waiting for you to take the time to listen and understand and accept. When you accept YOUR Real Self again, you'll make smarter choices, and those choices will stick because they actually fit who you are. Now, that's what you're really looking for, isn't it? If you are still struggling to create your next steps in getting to know the real you, schedule your Sunny Life "Experience Coaching" Session Today! We will explore the possibilities! Together, we will make it happen! Wishing you a Sunny Life! Kathleen  Please Share! A referral is one of the best compliments that I can receive. Please feel free to share this with your friends.
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 Time Hacks: Unlock More Fun and Free Time! Spend Time To Save Time You have to give some to get some. The old adage is usually applied to money, but it is also true of time. When we are very young or very old, time seems endless. But for the majority of our lives, time is something we always need. We are always pressed for time or seem to owe time to others, from our bosses to our families. Time is such a valuable commodity, so we need to make sure that we use it carefully. Careful use of our time means one thing -- time management. The sad truth is that most of us who are really in need of time management rarely utilize it.  However, spending time on this simple four-step plan named "TIME" can really make a difference in your day, your life, and your time!
T Is For Taking Time To Plan Every minute spent on planning and organizing will save at least that amount of time when you implement your plan. Shopping trips taken without a list often result in wasted time, errands run without prior planning often mean wasted time, and tasks not properly organized often mean wasted time. We all know this is true and yet we still rush forward in our haste to get something done. Take time to plan and you will be more efficient. I Is For Involving Others Whether at work or at home, involving other crucial stakeholders in your planning and prioritizing can help you attend to the essentials and share the work. Others may have good ideas to help you achieve your goals and others may well spark even more ideas from you. Sometimes, simply talking things over with a sympathetic audience can help you think more clearly. Don't forget to give others a share in the work as well as the planning. M Is For Meditation No matter how busy your life or hectic your schedule is, you must take time to reflect on your goals and dreams. Taking a few moments to clear your mind, focus your energy, and rebuild your strength can revitalize you and help you accomplish more when you swing back into action. Allowing yourself this down time may well give you the opportunity to prioritize and brainstorm so you can be even more productive than before. Even if you don't have a major brainstorming moment from taking this time out, it will definitely give you an energy boost. E Is For Evaluation It is important for you to regularly evaluate your priorities and goals. Perhaps you have accomplished tasks that can now be permanently crossed off your list or can be set aside until a later date. Perhaps you have achieved certain goals resulting in a change of other priorities. Perhaps you simply have learned something along the way that caused a number of shifts in your priorities and goals. Evaluation can also give you a sense of accomplishment if you look back on what you have achieved and the goals you have reached. Even if taking TIME for time management can seem wasteful, it is actually a process that pays for itself time and again. Time management may cost you time for planning and organization but in the end, it helps you gain time through efficiency and prioritization. The simple truth is that time management saves you time and stress. If you are still struggling with your time management skills, Schedule your Sunny Life "Experience Coaching" Session. We will explore the possibilities! Together, we will make this happen! Wishing you a Sunny Life! 3 min read FOCUSED AND FEARLESS  Photographs are clearer when they are in focus. When they are out of focus, they are blurry, indistinct. How many times have you been disappointed by the result when your focus was off? Faces or objects are blurred, maybe even unrecognizable. Toss that one away a poor quality picture that does not meet the ideal you had in mind when you took it. Scratch it up to experience. Maybe blame it on the camera. The quality of the pictures that show up in your life are also largely due to proper focus. In the first place, the idea must be clearly held in mind. The result you desire to manifest in your life must first be clearly and distinctly created in your imagination. It must be ‘in focus’; that is, the components must be defined, clearly seen, envisioned. In the second place, as you go about the ‘doing’ necessary to effectuate the picture, you must remain focused on your goal and not allow yourself to get distracted by what is going on around you.  Simple really, but it always amazes me how unfocused people are. Ask someone to describe their heart’s desire and 90% of the time, you cannot get a clear description from them.
It is blurry and indistinct. Generalities but no specifics. Or a description of the picture by what’s not in it. "I want health, wealth and happiness" "So what does health mean to you?" "Well, you know, to not be sick." "So what does wealth mean to you?" "Well, you know, to not be lacking." "So what does happiness mean to you?" "To not be sad, dissatisfied." "I want peace." "What’s that?" "Well, you know no more war." Not this, not that; defining the picture, the ideal by what is not in it, instead of what is in it. The trouble with focusing on ‘no more war’ is that you are still focusing on war. The trouble with focusing on not being unwell is that you are still focusing on un-wellness, not wellness. The focus is on lack and limitation and not on abundance and potentiality. Most people seem to know what they do NOT want. Focus your attention and intentions on those ideals that you want, desire, long for, lust after. Make that focus clear and distinct. You get the picture you have focused on. "Prosperity is the abundance of all things held ideal in mind and dear in heart." How clear and exact are your ideals? How much desire, longing, passion is attached to them? How focused is the image in your mind? How focused is your desire to have that ideal scenario in your life? The complex thing about life is that it is wonderfully full of distractions. Here you are, focused on some purpose or goal and then this incredibly intrusive thing occurs. Perhaps, you are in medical school, totally focused on becoming a doctor. Then this great guy shows up and before you know it, you are at home practicing motherhood instead of medicine and taking your child to the pediatrician you could have been had you not allowed yourself to be distracted, to lose focus. Or perhaps, you are busy going about the business of creating a business and some seemingly major obstacle presents itself, so you change your mind, change your plan, change your focus to the next great business idea and the next one after that. Life is full of distractions making it easy to lose focus. Winners stay focused. Sometimes they are so focused that you cannot even get their attention. If you are still struggling to create focus and clarity in your life, schedule your Sunny Life "Experience Coaching" Session. We will explore your possibilities! Together, we will make it happen!  Charisma also known as the "IT" factor is a fascinating and multifaceted trait that can greatly enhance your personal and professional life. Charisma has an enchanting power almost like "pixie dust" to captivate hearts and open doors to new opportunities. The good news is that increasing your charisma doesn't require a magic wand or any elaborate techniques. In fact, it is the simple everyday actions that can unlock your charismatic potential. Here are five simple, straightforward ways to elevate your charm and radiate irresistible charisma.  1)SMILE, RADIATE AND REPEAT
One of the simplest yet most powerful ways to boost your charisma is through the transformative power of a genuine smile. A warm and authentic smile instantly draws people towards you and creates an inviting atmosphere. Remember a smile is contagious and spreads joy wherever you go. 2)BE FULLY PRESENT Charismatic individuals have the remarkable ability to make you feel like you are the center of attention. How, you ask? By being fully present in the moment. When engaging with others, put away distractions, make eye contact and actively listen. Show genuine interest in what the other person is saying and, ask thoughtful questions and respond with empathy. By giving your undivided attention, you create a deep connection that enhances your charisma. 3)EMBRACE YOUR AUTHENTICITY Authenticity is the secret ingredient that amplifies your charisma. Embrace your unique qualities, quirks and passions. Celebrate what makes you stand out from the crowd. By being true to yourself, you radiate a genuine charm that is irresistible. Remember there is no one else quite like you, and that is your SUPERPOWER. 4)CULTIVATE POSITIVE ENERGY Positive energy is like a magnet, drawing people towards you and brightening their day. Cultivate a positive mindset by focusing on the good in every situation. Practice gratitude, count your blessings, and surround yourself with positivity. Infuse your interactions with enthusiasm, optimism and encouragement. Your vibrant energy will leave a lasting impression and elevate your charismatic appeal. 5)EMBODY CONFIDENCE Confidence is the key that unlocks your charisma. Stand tall, speak with conviction and embrace your unique voice. Believe in yourself and your capabilities. Celebrate your accomplishments and learn from your failures. Confidence is contagious, and when you exude it, others naturally gravitate toward you. Embrace your strength and let your self-assured presence light up any room that you enter. Increasing your charisma doesn't require a grand transformation. It begins with simple yet powerful actions that enhance your innate charm. Embrace the power of a genuine smile, be fully present in your interactions and celebrate your authentic self. Cultivate positive energy and let your confidence shine bright. As you incorporate these simple practices into your daily life, you will witness the incredible transformation of your charisma. Embrace the journey and let your radiant charm illuminate the world around you. If you are still struggling and need support in building your self confidence and developing your charisma, schedule your Sunny Life "Experience Coaching" Session. We will explore your possibilities! Together, we will make it happen!
After coaching many clients over the years, I've discovered that these two particular issues are what frustrate people most of all. CONFIDENCE AND CLARITY
How can you trust yourself if you are feeling fearful and doubtful about your abilities and your calling?
TAKE THE NEXT STEP! Your life will shrink or grow in proportion to your courage and confidence. Missed opportunities, staying in the (dis)comfort zone and making excuses is not a life well lived and will only bring regrets in the end. Why not make the decision today to have and do more of what you love to do? If you're still struggling, schedule your 30-minute Trial Coaching Session TODAY! 
Do you like the direction that your life is going in or is it time for a change?
If you study teenagers, you would discover a pretty adaptable species that has been designed to annoy and bother us since their creation. Operating in that no-man’s land between childhood and adulthood they’ve yet to set their anchor in life and they float blissfully on the sea of irresponsibility.
Maybe it’s time to stop getting splinters on your butt from sitting on the fence.
No more waiting, no more “maybes”, no more “yes, no” hesitations, nothing but beautiful, clear-minded, rocket-fuel determination and glee. No more procrastinating, no more negatively comparing yourself to others and no more waiting for it to be "perfect."
How To Grab Your Destiny
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Read Time 3mins Your life has been a roller coaster of experiences from winning on a scratch off ticket to enjoying a fun family dinner to the excitement of starting a new job to climbing out of the depths of despair from mourning, grief and illness and everything in between.
When the realization comes that today may bring some dread at the things that you need to face, it sometimes seems an impossibility. Then after some deep reflection, you are ready to cope. The dread can sometimes weigh heavy on your mind and body making it hard to get moving and face the day ahead
On a day-to-day basis, before you get out of bed - Think of at least three things ahead that you want to happen or can create and look forward to: ...Maybe a latte in your favorite park, listening to an inspiring podcast, accomplishing a task that you have been putting off or a fabulous evening meal with great friends.
Here are a few other methods to turn your gloom into happiness:
You don't always have to take action. Let things unfold. If it's not your "normal" dread or gloom of "I'm having a bad day" or "Life sucks at this moment" and you think you need the help of a mental health professional, seek it immediately.
You have everything within you to have the love, success and health you desire. Remember the tide will roll in, hit the rocks and roll out again. All you must do is just keep swimming, swimming, swimming. Want to be happier? ...then eat your greens. Research involving fruit and veggies revealed that people who ate the most fruit and veggies were less likely to exhibit nervousness, anxiety, depression and other mental problems. They were also more likely to be happy and satisfied with their lives. Seconds anyone? If you are still struggling, schedule your Sunny Life Coach 30-minute Trial Coaching Session TODAY!   Is it time to start learning to live minimally?
While we look to liberate and streamline our lives, we often end up getting in our own way. We all want to upgrade our lives continuously with the latest and greatest gadgets, but where do we put them? Do you have a huge home with a large basement and garage to store all your treasured "finds?" For most of us our homes are full of half-finished projects and good intentions, such as that rarely-used treadmill that you now use as a extended closet and the latest and greatest self-help books that sit half-read.  Does this look like your home? And then there are the countless things infused with memories and guilt, that we hang on to for emotional reasons. We can inherit clutter, such as an assortment of “treasured family objects” that are passed on through the generations, turning us into some kind of emotional warehouse where we become the guardians of family memories, which end up owning us.
If you looked in most people’s homes, they would reveal mountains of chain store merchandise that even charity shops are reluctant to take, as anyone who has ever had to clean out the home of an elderly relative will agree.
Having too much stuff to deal with can make it difficult to focus on anything. It can make you feel tired when you walk into a room and cause anxiety when we lose or can’t locate things easily. It induces feelings of guilt about overspending on things we don’t need or use, and a general feeling of being overwhelmed.
These are just a few examples of how clutter can affect our lives and our health.
Sometimes we feel insecure and think we need “treats” is one explanation, another is the sense that we can’t throw something away in case it might be needed– even if it has sat there, unused forever and forever. We should all learn to travel a little lighter, to treasure our relationships and our life, and not things, unless that "thing" sparks joy in your heart.
If you are still struggling, schedule your 30-minutes Trial Sunny Life Coaching session and see how you could live lighter. 
Yes, procrastination and avoidance. It can’t just be me who has the same tasks not done and people not responded to which appear on the list every day? Sometimes for weeks. Then these people not answered and the tasks left undone develop their own sort of dread power that can make cleaning the lint out of your dryer or scrubbing your trash can look like a desirable distraction.
I’m more interested in a “To Be” List. Getting clear on why you are doing what you are doing and where do you want it to take you is a far more meaningful exercise.
What if the present was perfect and doing less gave you more?  What if we didn’t fill the void with actions and developed a soulful relaxed approach to life? One friend who was working a full time job with overtime, developing her own business, renovating her home, managing the contractors, and trying to keep her life on track said, “I even rush when I speak like racing to the full stop!”. She was in such a chronic state of exhaustion both mentally and physically, she couldn't think straight and kept wonder why getting things done seemed much more difficult than it should have been.  Stop the To-Do List ...or just make it the top 3 priorities you do first thing in the morning that you know will help you make progress. Here are some “Coaching Tips” to help you focus on how “To-Be” and be happy: 1)Let go of past slights. People do hurt us and it’s our responsibility to process it and let it go or it can become a vengeful item on your “to-do” list! 2)Build in a reward into every 90 minutes and notice how you feel and the joy it brings - A good cup of coffee or your favorite tea, eating what you believe to be healthy or not, feeling the wind on your face, noticing the change of season. It’s all about mindful noticing. 3)If you are feeling overwhelmed learn to say “NO”. No justification nor explanation is needed. No is a complete sentence. 4) Drop perfectionism. You are MORE than good enough. 5) Learn the art of day dreaming. Let your subconscious show you the way. If you are still struggling, schedule your 30-minute Trial Sunny Life Coaching session and see how you could seriously upgrade your life!
Patience vs. Procrastination... Which is it for you?
Sadly, there is no magic wand… but there is magic...
Wasting years of my life in a “holding pattern” believing it would somehow work itself out if I could just work harder. I waited for my world to change, but it wasn’t about working harder, it was about working smarter with a focus. I can't tell you how many times I questioned why things weren’t just magically happening and kept pushing myself harder thinking I needed to do more. That was until I decided to change my approach.
When I quit waiting for life to deliver and focused on my plan, the wonderful things I dreamed of eventually came to me.
...and the definition of luck? It's when preparedness meets opportunity. Here are some "coaching" questions to get you started:
Something else to think about…
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