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Why Is It So Difficult To Get Clarity And Confidence?

1/31/2021

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What do you think is the top question I'm asked as a Life Coach?
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​I have been working as a Life Coach for over 20 years now and have helped different clients conquer a variety  of challenges they had to face in their lives.  However, what do you think are two of the most  frequent challenges people bring up to me their Sunny Life Coach?
After coaching many clients over the years, I've discovered that these two particular issues are what frustrate people most of all. ​
CONFIDENCE AND CLARITY
CONFIDENCE

​These two things appear to allude you. If you had all the confidence you needed what would you do?
  • Give up the day job and start that brilliant online business that would make you millions?
  • Would you put your hand up in more meetings?
  • Ask your crush out?
  • Or merely start living the life you loved if you could give yourself permission and stop pleasing others in the process?
And clarity?
​That comes with confidence.
  • How do you know what you want in life if you don’t know who you are? 
  • What are your passions and strengths?
  • Do you have the nerve to take a step forward toward your life purpose? 
Clarity
​​How can you trust yourself if you are feeling fearful and doubtful about your abilities and your calling?
Purpose
​Without knowing yourself and doing the work on your inward journey, you will  fall into regrets of  “should-ofs” and “ought to haves” or you just respond like a mouse-in-a-maze going in circles with the wrong job and relationships that you took to go with the flow rather than make a powerful choice to opt into. 
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Ever wondered if you were missing the gut instinct and intuition genes at birth? The key is confidence and knowing yourself.
Passion
Finding your passion and purpose really makes life come into full technicolor vision. Life has meaning and you feel powerful and you have intention in your energy. Things make sense and doors open because you knew which doors you needed to appear. Finding out who we are is a lifetime’s journey and using a coach can fast track you if you want to take that path less travelled.
Coaching Tips

​Coaching Tips:
  • Start small and take 15 minutes each day to clear your head and focus on taking deep breathes. Declutter your brain and quiet the noise.
  • Start writing notes of what you would like to achieve and where you are right now.​
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TAKE THE NEXT STEP!
Your life will shrink or grow in proportion to your courage and confidence. Missed opportunities, staying in the (dis)comfort zone and making excuses is not a life well lived and will only bring regrets in the end.
Why not make the decision today to have and do more of what you love to do?

If you're still struggling, schedule your 30-minute Trial Coaching Session TODAY!
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Is It Time To Live Your Life With Passion or Continue Sitting on The Sidelines?

5/26/2020

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Which is it for you?
I have said to many of my clients that this "Quarantine" is one the greatest opportunities in our lifetime to take a step back and regroup. 
The world is changing and is filled with possibilities and opportunities for those who are brave and creative.  
We get to create the new "norms."  We get to create  products, processes and systems to support the new "norm."
Yes the world is changing, but if we are smart about it, we will not only survive but also thrive.
Think about the direction your life is going in :
  • Are you happy with your life?
  • Are you where you want to be?
  • Are you fully engaged in your life and living  with passion?
  • Is it time for a change?
  • Are you "STUCK" doing the same thing?
  • Are you still procrastinating?
  • Do you know how to make the change you need?
I work with hundreds of clients each year and I hear the same things:
  • "I have a good life, but sometimes I feel  something is missing."
  • "I know I don't want to stay in this career because it is sucking the life out of me, but I  have a good salary and benefits.
  • I have always had a dream of ________.
  • I want to start my own business, but I need help.
  • I need to start creating a new plan or side hustle .
  • I know what I need to do but I keep procrastinating.
  • “I’m sick and tired of living from the sidelines.
It breaks my heart to see so many people stuck, unfulfilled and not living to their full potential.
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Do you like the direction that your life is going in or is it time for a change?
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The first step is to find out what your PASSION is.

I start with asking  - "if money wasn't an issue what would you love to do?"
It is the best place to start to find out what your passion is.
Then become obsessed with your passion.
Be curious and open minded.
Have you ever wondered about how amazing your life would be if you lived everyday with passion?


It seems like only yesterday that you had dreams of becoming president, becoming a doctor, a lawyer, traveling the world .  You finished school and set out on that exciting path then somewhere along the way that evolution failed to transpire.

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If you study teenagers, you would discover a pretty adaptable species that has been designed to annoy and bother us since their creation.      
Operating in that no-man’s land between childhood and adulthood they’ve yet to set their anchor in life and they float blissfully on the sea of irresponsibility.
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Ever ask if they want a cup of lemonade and you’ll get a “maybe”, “possibly” or the shrugged “I don’t know” as if committing to a choice of beverage means you’ve signed away some bit of personal power or sold your soul to you know who.

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The bad news is some of us don’t grow out of it. Clients who say they “just drifted” into what they are doing and can’t find their “thing” in life are waiting for their life purpose to grab them by the shirt collar, shake them, sit them down and sign them up.

Are you waiting for your passion to come to claim you? Are you waiting for it to drift past you like butlered  hors d’oeurves at a cocktail hour thinking you will know what you want when it passes you by?
 Maybe it’s time to stop getting splinters on your butt from sitting on the fence.
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Here is the deal.
What you are seeking outside yourself  actually lies within but you have fear and doubt. You have within you right now everything you need to have a life you love, the success you desire and the love you need.

The trouble is you want it easy, you want guarantees and you’re scared to take a risk. If this is you then the good news is that you can live a life with wild passion right now.
No more waiting, no more “maybes”, no more “yes, no” hesitations, nothing but beautiful, clear-minded, rocket-fuel determination and glee.
No more procrastinating, no more negatively comparing yourself to others and no more waiting for it to be "perfect."
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Think Good thoughts - Thoughts are powerful
  • Have an "intention," a plan or a goal for your day. Energy follows intentions.
  • Stop worrying about what people think. That’s none of your business. You are in charge of your own destiny.
  • Live in the now.  Don’t delay by waiting until tomorrow. There is never a perfect time.
  • Action is everything. Nothing will feel just right or ideal but at least investigate with curiosity.
  • Excuses aren’t a life plan.
  • Allow your dreams as much importance as your fears.
How To Grab Your Destiny
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  • Commit to something and give 100 per cent.
  • Be the master of what you do whether you work for yourself or some else.
  • Stop moaning, resisting and coasting.
  • Take baby steps if you need to, but take steps!
If you are still struggling, schedule your Sunny Life Coach 30-minute Trial Coaching Session TODAY!
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Can Every Day Really Be A Good Day?

1/19/2020

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You know how it is ...
...some days are better than others.
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Your life has been a roller coaster of experiences from winning on a scratch off ticket to enjoying a fun family dinner to the excitement of starting a new job  to climbing out of  the depths of despair from mourning, grief and illness and everything in between.
The morning comes and you slowly open your eyes.  

As you wake up comes the thought of “will this be a good day or is there dread?"

We would like to believe that every day is a new day and life is too short to carry any negativity, but the reality is some days it can take a little longer to get yourself going.


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When the realization comes that today may bring some dread at the things that you need to face, it sometimes seems an impossibility. Then after some deep reflection, you are ready to cope. The dread can sometimes weigh heavy on your mind and body making it hard to get moving and face the day ahead
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So, what do we need to know when dread is ahead and your mood is low?

The most important thing is to remember that this situation is temporary.

Moods are mutable and movable, and things can and will get better.




What makes you want to leap out of bed and kiss the sun for bringing you such a great day?

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On a day-to-day basis, before you get out of bed -

Think of at least three things ahead that you want to happen or can create and look forward to:

...Maybe a latte in your favorite park, listening to an inspiring podcast, accomplishing a task that you have been putting off or a fabulous evening meal with great friends.

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If it's a particularly dark time then self-care is needed, saying "no" to any requests made of you, giving yourself time and being kind to yourself as you heal.
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Nature contains its own Prozac so get out and let the wind and sun on your face put your life in perspective, mindfully listen to the birds, stop to look at and smell the flowers.
 
Know what will make you happy and give yourself a double serving with responsible selfishness.

Here are a few other methods to turn your gloom into happiness:
  • Identify the negative emotions
  • Write them down
  • Draw a picture of them
The fact that you have identified your fear or anxiety can sometimes be relief enough.
You don't always have to take action.
Let things unfold.

If it's not your "normal" dread or gloom of "I'm having a bad day" or "Life sucks at this moment" and you think you need the help of a mental health professional, seek it immediately. 
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Here are some "Coaching Tips" to help you create "happiness" around you:
  • Be super gentle with yourself.
  • Avoid “triggers” like annoying people, stressful situations and find a safe place to relax and retreat.
  • Do a good deed for someone then enjoy the karmic kickback.
  • Daydream about the things that really light you up and take one step towards them. Repeat often.
You have everything within you to have the love, success and health you desire.
 
Remember the tide will roll in, hit the rocks and roll out again. All you must do is just keep swimming, swimming, swimming.


Want to be happier? ...then eat your greens.

Research involving fruit and veggies revealed that people who ate the most fruit and veggies were less likely to exhibit nervousness, anxiety, depression and other mental problems.
 They were also more likely to be happy and satisfied with their lives.

 Seconds anyone?
If you are still struggling, schedule your Sunny Life Coach 30-minute Trial Coaching Session TODAY!

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Is Clutter Stopping You?

11/26/2019

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Is it time to start learning to live minimally?

Do you love shopping for the “the next big thing” in the hope that it will improve your life, or you will in some way be better than the rest?

As we strive for more, we find we have less room to store it.


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While we look to liberate and streamline our lives, we often end up getting in our own way.
We all want to upgrade our lives continuously with the latest and greatest gadgets, but where do we put them?

Do you have a huge home with a large basement and garage to store all your treasured "finds?"
For most of us our homes are full of half-finished projects and good intentions, such as that rarely-used  treadmill that you now use as a extended closet and the latest and greatest  self-help books that sit half-read.
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Does this look  like your home?
And then there are the countless things infused with memories and guilt, that we hang on to for emotional reasons.
We can inherit clutter, such as an assortment of  “treasured family objects” that are passed on through the generations, turning us into some kind of emotional warehouse where we become the guardians of family memories, which end up owning us.
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It is not as though the stuff that is passed on includes Louis Vuitton handbags or Tiffany treasures whose classic elegance makes them desirable whatever their age.
If you looked in most people’s homes, they would reveal mountains of chain store merchandise that even charity shops are reluctant to take, as anyone who has ever had to clean out the home of an elderly relative will agree.
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Living minimally liberates us in ways that we feel good and it is good for our overall mental and physical health.
Having too much stuff to deal with can make it difficult to focus on anything. It can make you feel tired when you walk into a room and cause anxiety when we lose or can’t locate things easily.

It induces feelings of guilt about overspending on things we don’t need or use, and a general feeling of being overwhelmed.
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It may also make you less social as you are less likely to entertain if there is too much clearing and cleaning up to do before you invite anyone over.


These are just a few examples of how clutter can affect our lives and our health.
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How did we get to the point where we are drowning in our own fads and constant desire for more and better? Most of us would love to save more but continue to spend on items we do not need or use like we are sleepwalking zombies that have no control over our purchases.


Sometimes we feel insecure and think we need “treats” is one explanation, another is the sense that we can’t throw something away in case it might be needed– even if it has sat there, unused forever and forever.

We should all learn to travel a little lighter, to treasure our relationships and our life, and not things, unless  that  "thing" sparks joy in your heart.
Here are some coaching tips to get you started  on the path of de-cluttering your life and living minimally.
  • Take a large box or trash bag - walk around your home and place all the old items that you haven’t used.
  • Put them outside to be donated or trashed and you will notice you will not miss them at all. 
  • Repeat this every day for 20minutes until you start to see a difference and feel lighter.
 


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If you are still struggling, schedule your 30-minutes Trial Sunny Life Coaching session and see how you could live lighter.
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TO-DO or TO-BE - What will bring you greater happiness?

3/22/2019

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The “To-Do List” is the driving force of our day.   Something to keep us focused on the important things we need to get done.  It is a barometer of how busy or important we are. It is used to manage our procrastination.

Yes, procrastination and avoidance.  It can’t just be me who has the same tasks not done and people not responded to which appear on the list every day? Sometimes for weeks. Then these people not answered and the tasks left undone develop their own sort of dread power that can make cleaning the lint out of your dryer or scrubbing your trash can look like a desirable distraction.
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But this blog post isn’t about how to be more efficient because deep down you already know the how’s & why’s of your avoidance simply boils down to that you just don’t want to do something.
 
All procrastination is about fear or avoidance of a perceived pain.

Looking foolish, rejection, failing, succeeding, not knowing what to do, a sense of pointlessness or simply being clueless. There are a million tips out there to get you started.  You can just Google them – or add that to your To-Do List.

I’m more interested in a “To Be” List.
Getting clear on why you are doing what you are doing and where do you want it to take you is a far more meaningful exercise.
The endless striving and pushing forward and stopping to wonder if you accomplished enough is a great exercise in futility. Instead of thinking what you have “To Do”  - notice why you don’t want to do a lot of the stuff that is dragging you down and making you shop, drink or seek any distraction.
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How about a “To-Be” List or a "REAL" "To-Do" List which is about consciously accessing your joy every day, doing things that are so easy you can’t believe you get paid to do it or creating things that make your heart sing like Lady Gaga and Bradly Cooper in a Star is Born.

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What if the present was perfect and doing less gave you more?
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What if we didn’t fill the void with actions and developed a soulful relaxed approach to life?
One friend who was working a full time job with overtime, developing her own business, renovating her home, managing the contractors, and trying to keep her life on track said, “I even rush when I speak like racing to the full stop!”.   She was in such a chronic state of exhaustion both mentally and physically, she couldn't think straight and kept wonder why getting things done seemed much more difficult than it should have been.
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Stop the To-Do List
 
...or just make it the top 3 priorities you do first thing in the morning that you know will help you make progress.



Here are some “Coaching Tips” to help you focus on how “To-Be” and be happy:


1)Let go of past slights. People do hurt us and it’s our responsibility to process it and let it go or it can become a vengeful item on your “to-do” list!

2)Build in a reward into every 90 minutes and notice how you feel and the joy it brings - A good cup of coffee or your favorite tea, eating what you believe to be healthy or not, feeling the wind on your face, noticing the change of season. It’s all about mindful noticing.

3)If you are feeling overwhelmed learn to say “NO”.  No justification nor explanation is needed. No is a complete sentence.

 4) Drop perfectionism. You are MORE than good enough.

 5) Learn the art of day dreaming. Let your subconscious show you the way.

If you are still struggling, schedule your 30-minute Trial Sunny Life Coaching session and see how you could seriously upgrade your life!

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Patience VS. Procrastination...

1/18/2019

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Patience vs. Procrastination...
Which is it for you?
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  • Are you waiting for someone to see your utter brilliance at work and give you a promotion?
  • Are you waiting for the phone to ring with your dream job offer?
  • Are you waiting for someone to start your dream business for you?
  • Are you waiting for that lost love to see the light and come back changed being everything you wanted them to be?
  • Are you waiting for another to rescue you?
  • Are you waiting for somebody to take responsibility for the pain they are causing you? How long are you prepared to wait for them to change?
  • Perhaps you are waiting for just the right time to start that diet or take up an exercise regime?
  • Are you wishing away pain and grief?
Sadly, there is no magic wand…
but there is magic...

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Trust me, I've been there. I've willed someone to "rescue" me from my life and myself; a kind of living hell of unmet expectations and dashed hopes.
Wasting years of my life in a “holding pattern” believing it would somehow work itself out if I could just work harder. I waited for my world to change, but it wasn’t about working harder, it was about working smarter with a focus.
 
I can't tell you how many times I questioned why things weren’t just magically happening and kept pushing myself harder thinking I needed to do more.

That was until I decided to change my approach.
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I stopped expecting the world to say to me I see how hard you work, you should have this and then hand it to me

I took a step back, stopped all activity, refocused, clarified my vision and started digging my "escape tunnels" instead.  I changed my focus and turned up the creativity. 

When I quit waiting for life to deliver and focused on my plan, the wonderful things I dreamed of eventually came to me.
 
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Out of a place of gleaming hope and zero fear, I found the courage to gain additional certifications and launch my business which is now a career I adore.   I couldn't have done a lot of this without life and business coaching.
 
It gives me chills to think what life would've been like if I hadn't had bothered?  If I'd left it to chance?  If I'd given up?

...and the definition of luck?  
It's when preparedness meets opportunity.

Here are some "coaching"  questions to get you started:
  • What does your vision of reaching your goals look like to you?
  • How different would your life be if you achieved your goals?
  • What actions would you have to take to overcome obstacles or stop making excuses?
Something else to think about…
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I love your passion, your determination and your eye on the outcome, but it is vital to live in the now as you follow your dream. 

You can't put your life on hold until you drop the dress size, meet your dream date or take over Apple.  The journey is as important  as achieving your goals.  

Patience must mean that you enjoy your life in its fullest while holding your dream deep in your heart.
 
Take one step at a time, tell friends, create a community, do what you have to do to get there.
Enjoy and be grateful for each day and never ever give up!
If you are still struggling,
Schedule your 30-minute Trial Sunny Life Coaching session.

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Who Is your best friend?...and why it should be you!

1/5/2019

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Why You Should You Be Your Own Best Friend...
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Are you like Groucho Marx and would never join a club that would have you as a member?
Do you find the idea of self-love strange or a little distasteful?



Everyone does something that makes them feel good about themselves.
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We have been programmed to believe that there is something immodest as well as a bit desperate, about "being your own best friend" for it seems to suggest not so much that you really love yourself but that no one else does.

It only gets worse from there. We are not only so bad at being good to ourselves, we can also be overcritical of ourselves. When we truly love someone in our lives, we will recognize and reward them for their achievements. When it comes to us, we not only don’t reward ourselves, we can punish ourselves or self-sabotage our future success.

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Another piece of cake? A new pair of shoes you can manage if you put it on a 12-month payment plan? Another supersize cocktail, it's been one of those days? …or just little trinkets that you believe don’t really count. 

They lift your spirits for the moment but loses its uplifting effect an hour later.

You don't have to be overweight, broke or an alcoholic to realize these little tokens of self-love wear off quickly and the short-term pleasure they bring becomes a form of self-sabotage.

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At the other end of the self-loathing spectrum, there are those who equate "doing it for me" with extreme dietary deprivation or exercise routines that would make a graduate of the Marine Corp “Boot Camp” cringe, but you justify it by telling yourself it might make you feel "good" later. 

Life is too short to torture yourself.

I have news for you. There is a middle ground between self-loving and self-loathing and it is not indifference. It is about doing things that feel pretty good in the short term and very good long term.
 
Feeling good about yourself is not one size fits all.  There are things everyone can do, even if you're not your own best friend, at least you can feel pretty good about yourself and some of the things that you have accomplished.


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Here is the “How To” of being your own “Best Friend”:
  • Treat yourself with the kindness that you’ve shown a dear friend.
  • Forgive yourself your regrets, failures, weaknesses and fears.
  • Show yourself the compassion you show to other people you love.
  • Loving yourself means being "responsibly selfish" - making sure your needs are met first so you can be a better partner, parent, friend, son or daughter for others.  It can be likened to the “Airline Safety” instructions “Put your oxygen mask on first before helping others.”  This insures that you can actually be of value to help others.
  • Check in with yourself when people make requests of your time and energy - do you really want to do it or are you just pleasing others to seek acceptance?
  • Rest more. Naps are good for your mind, body and your good health.
  • Schedule “Non-Negotiable Me Time” for relaxing, putting your feet up, reading a book, taking a walk, meditating, staring at the wall or anything else that gives you pleasure. (even if it is only fifteen minutes a day to start or an afternoon a week) This is a non-cancellable appointment with penalties for not keeping it. You do pay a price in the long run for not taking time for yourself.
  • Find what you love, your passion,  and do it regularly.
Learning to be your own “best friend” and advocate only sets you up for success. 
It is the best foundation for launching all your dreams. 

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Happy people make better choices. 
  • Looking to start a business?
  • Looking for a career?
  • Looking to change careers?
  • Looking for love? 
Whatever your dreams, they all begin with you being your own best friend and advocate.

 Here are some “coaching” questions to get you started:
  • What would have to change in your life for you to become your own “best friend?”
  • What obstacle(s) would you have to remove to make this happen?
  • How would your life look to you if you were your own “best friend?”
  • Why is it important to you to do this now?
  • What actions are you ready to take?
 
If you are still struggling?
Schedule your 30-minute Trial Sunny Life Coaching session.

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Which Path Do I Choose?

9/2/2018

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Do you have so many options and choices that it paralyzes you from making a simple decision?

Are you a perfectionist? 

Does that cause you to delay any decisions because you want everything  just  perfect?


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 At some point everyone will need to make at least one decision and then the next decision based on the outcome of the first decision. But if you are stuck you don’t make any decisions, this is where the challenge lies.

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This is the time where Sunny Life Coach can really help to support and guide you to get on the right path.
 
Your coach acts as your guide, your mentor, your mirror, your life designer and your partner to success.  By using simple coaching techniques, Sunny Life Coach helps you to create your plan for success.  But you need to continue to take baby steps in order to move forward.

 

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The simplest way to give you clarity is to look at your “big picture” your long term goal.
 
Then when each decision comes up – you ask yourself how will my decision impact my long term goal – if it is positive (even if it is a baby step in the right direction) it is still good.  If it will impact your long term goal negatively then you need to rethink your decision.

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Do you want so much to not make a mistake that you do nothing?
 
Is this really where you want to be?  

Are you comfortable letting other people make choices for you because you are stuck?  Are you happy with other people’s left overs?
 
By not taking any action or making any decisions, you are unfortunately making decisions, but not the best ones for you.

With so many choices out there of course, it is important to choose the right path or deal with the consequences.

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But when you are crippled by procrastination and indecision you may find that life passes you by as you ponder away the years.
 
You are not alone. I have coached many people of all ages, who are beginning to find some satisfaction in claiming their life and making their own decisions and choices.

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Here are a few coaching questions to help you clarify your vision:
  • What does claiming your life mean to you?
  • What would your life look if you were to step up and claim it?
  • What would you have to believe in yourself in order to do that?
  • If you don’t make a decision, what do you think the outcome will be?
  • Will you be happy with the outcome?
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Searching for happiness or following your passion is often the backbone to coaching sessions. It is so energizing when your coach is guiding you through the process of creating your plan, goal setting and coming up with strategies to get you to your destination.
 
By not making any decisions, you are living your life from the sidelines allowing others to take what they want and you taking whatever is left over.  At some point, you need to claim your life and take responsibility for yourself and your actions.
 
Using simple life coaching techniques, you need to look at what taking action would look like to you?  Does it take you where you want to be? If not, Sunny Life Coach can support you in making changes to achieve your goals.


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If you are still struggling, schedule your  30 minute Trial Sunny Life Coaching session to understand how Sunny Life Coaching can help guide  you in making decisions that are the best for you.

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Do you show yourself "Kindness?"

8/26/2018

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"Practice random acts of kindness” is the mantra of current times.  Buy a coffee or pay a road toll for the person behind you in the line and “pay forward the kindness” you received from someone else sort of thing.

Has it come to you yet?  Like all fads or trends, they can quickly fade away and become meaningless.

Being kind is something that never goes out of date but the whole idea of compassion and gentleness seems obsolete when it comes to applying it to ourselves.

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Sometimes our inner dialogue is so nagging and critical it becomes a type of mental torture that we easily become convinced of.
Some of the inner dialogue we hear are: “You’re not good enough," “You’re not good at anything”, "Why couldn’t I handle that situation better?" "Why do I let them get to me?" "I'm not smart enough."  "I don’t deserve good things"…and the list goes  on. I’m sure you can add your own.

We are always tougher on ourselves,  but if we had seen someone else treated like this we would be calling the police or social service to intervene.

We need to STOP!  The random acts of kindness need to START with OURSELVES FIRST!


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Let’s be clear on what our self- kindness really means to us.

It’s not being narcissistic and self centered.  It is not going on an unlimited shopping spree or eating, drinking and other out of control behavior because “I deserve it.”  That type of behavior is destructive and is just a short-term fix for bigger emotional needs

Being kind is giving yourself a break to take the time to understand what YOU need.

It is taking a moment to ask yourself “how do I feel about this?” and giving consideration to the things that are causing exhaustion, anxiety or emotional pain.

Being kind to yourself is saying “no” even if it means you putting your needs above someone else's expectations.  It’s being gentle as you try new things – a diet, an exercise program, a new hobby or managing your health issues and giving yourself time to adjust, ease into it and eventually succeed at it. It’s being patient with yourself.

It’s remembering you are not just the culmination of your disappointments, regrets, sadness and let downs but also the total of your successes, brilliance and overall triumphs”.



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Getting to know yourself means you can gently make the right decisions to benefit and enhance the quality of your life and the people you love around you as well.

It means making choices to support and nurture yourself to triumph over resentment, exhaustion and bad choices.

Checking in with where you are feeling pain in the body and deciding not to put up with or live with it also helps.



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Do some people make you tense, uneasy, on edge or stressed out just at hearing their name?

Think about those who make you feel diminished and invisible or who don’t show interest in you or listen when you speak, then limit time with them or move away entirely from their company.

Take a look at the people who claim that they are here for you and profess that they will do anything for you until they actually have to step up and do something to help you. 
Do you really need and want these people in your life?


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For your own sake,  forgive those who have hurt you.  Don’t be carrying around the weight of the pain that they caused you. 

Let it go, put it down and grant yourself freedom. 


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Being kind means not being taken for granted. It means listening to your needs and fulfilling them in a nourishing healthy way.

It’s having a community of people who “get” you!  It is feeling good about yourself and your relationships. 

It is not feeling used and not comparing yourself unfavorably to others.


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I urge you to stop and make a concerted effort to become more aware of your needs.

As you become more aware, nurture yourself with kindness first.  Find joy and gratitude in the day to day. Forgive yourself your own perceived weaknesses and disappointments.  Make friends with YOU and learn to like what you see.

In doing so you not only make your life better, but you also improve the world  around you too. You will make way for a future of surprises, happiness, blessings and everyday miracles.


Are you ready to start being  kind to yourself?
Why not schedule a 30-minute Sunny Life Coach Trial Coaching Session to help get you started?

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Has "life" taken its toll on your level of self-Confidence?

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Perhaps you've already got there and are living the dream, having the life and being the “YOU” you always wanted to be.  We wish you all the best. 

Is achievement and happiness still not enough for you?  What is your next mountain to climb?

Not there yet?


What do you mean you had big plans but "Life" got in the way?  What's that you say?  You're not sure what you want.  This only means you will definitely not know when you have gotten there.
 
If you have made some progress but are permanently stuck and not sure if you are living your dream or how you even got there- it's OK, you've come to the right place.


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As children we have mighty big dreams for ourselves. 
We confidently say - "Oh I'm going to be an astronaut, president or invent something grand ..." and shrug as though it were a given.
Job done.  So be it.
 





Then life delivers knock-downs, disappointments, rejections, heart ache and woe.
Our little umbrellas of hope get battered and torn as the storms of life take their toll and it seems easier to retreat than forge on.
We've all been there.  Yes, all of us; even the really successful, happy and contented folk. 


And here's the bottom line -
It's how you choose to deal with all of those set-backs and hardships that is the key to becoming all you ever wanted to be.


Our perception of the world can create "can-do" or "can't ever do" attitudes. It can make us feel like victors as well as victims, millionaires or paupers.  Our beliefs and perceptions can trip us up, keep us down, enable us to climb the highest mountain or stay stuck in the corner sulking and sucking our thumbs.
 
One of the first casualties of negative perceptions is a serious downturn in confidence. Fear grabs us and keeps us stuck in excuses, pain and indecision. We start to question ourselves as our internal critic acts like a weight on our dreams and actions.


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In coaching clients who say their lack of confidence is holding them back it's important from the start to establish what being confident means.
 
It doesn't mean being a bragging, loud bore that people would clear a bar in 30 seconds.  Why not aim for quietly assertive?


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Here are a few coaching questions to help you take a step nearer who you want to be:
  • What would you do differently today if you had the confidence?
  • What in your life would change if you had the courage to speak up?
  • What are you believing in that could be keeping you stuck?
  • What are you prepared to commit to in order to change what you have and to get what you want?
It's the small twists and tweaks in our thinking that can have the most momentous and long lasting results.
  
What could you do today to take one step closer to being who you always wished you could be?


If you are still struggling and would like to seriously improve your confidence,
Schedule a 30-minute Trial  Sunny Life Coaching Session.

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    ​Having worked over twenty years in the corporate world managing successful businesses and coaching her teams to achieve their goals, she now works in her private practice coaching individuals to successfully create their plans and achieve their goals.  She is passionate about enjoying her life which includes traveling the world learning new things.

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